Authentic Self vs. Co-dependent Self

As promised, here is a list comparing the "Authentic Self" to the "Co-dependent Self." I think if we're honest, we all have co-dependent tendencies at times. I just wanted to share this because it was a definite eye-opener for me. Emotionally, we're all jacked. Even those of us whose exterior seems to be generally healthy emotionally will at times manipulate our surroundings and/or the people around us to make ourselves feel accepted, needed and loved. Check out the list and let me know what you think:

Authentic Self Co-dependent Self

Genuine False, mask

Spontaneous Plans and plods

Expansive, loving Contracting, fearful

Giving, communicating Withholding

Accepting of self and others Envious, critical, idealized, perfectionistic

Compassionate Other focused, conforming

Feels feelings Denies or hides feelings

Loves unconditionally Loves conditionally

Assertive Aggressive and or passive

Intuitive Rational or logical

Ability to be child-like Is childish

Needs to play and have fun Avoids fun

Vulnerable Pretends to be strong

Trusting Distrusting

Surrenders Controls, withdraws